Go check your email. That is where you will have access to the course material – online videos and workbook download. Commit to blocking off time weekly in your schedule for this course, and for your relationship.
No. You can absolutely do this work on your own. We have seen many individuals take the lead on changing their relationship with great success.
Sometimes your partner may not be ready to make a change when you are, and that’s okay. But, when you start doing the work on your own, your partner will feel the energy shift in the relationship and chances are, they are going to want to join the conversation and participate in the learning and growing. Sometimes you have to lead by example and be the inspiration for your partner.
You are not alone in this. Many people find it difficult to talk about their relationship struggles. We get it, your relationship is so important, there is a lot at stake, and so people tend to avoid being vulnerable, choosing the safer route of avoiding (ignoring) their problems. However, vulnerability often allows for more vulnerability. When one person opens up they create a safe space for their partner to do the same.
When you put in the time and effort to learn and grow, your partner will see the differences it is making in your relationship and they will feel the shift in energy and whether or not they then decide to participate or not - your relationship will be improving.
It can be really frustrating and challenging when one person in a relationship is ready to go all in and the other is skeptical or dragging their heels! We would encourage you to be both curious and empathetic to what might be holding your partner back from participating. In many cultures, societies, and homes, talking about feelings and relationships is just not done and so a course all about relationships can feel overwhelming to some. It will be important to acknowledge your partner's feelings while still asking for what you want and need! You could try saying something like “I know talking about your feelings is not your ideal Saturday (or even Monday) night, but I want us to do everything we can to have the best relationship possible so let’s give this a try!”
The Thrive Together program is so much more than talking about your past struggles and unsolvable problems. This is an experiential course, where you will be taught relationship, communication, and conflict fundamentals that you have never been taught before. You will set goals and have a concrete plan for the future. You will have increased self awareness and greater relational awareness with your partner. You will have real life applicable tools that you can refer back to over and over again until you are relationship masters!
